Friday, April 11, 2014

Re-Vamp In Progress

Hey y’all!

As you might have noticed there are a few changes going on here on the blog.

I’m revamping and renovating.

Be patient with me, I hope to have something worth the wait at the end of it all.

Thanks

Davita

Tuesday, April 08, 2014

Old Fashioned Living

I want to live as old fashioned as possible. I am old fashioned in views and in my style. I like the era’s between the World Wars and the post-war era up until the early 60’s. 

Don't get me wrong, I admit that I AM a hypocrite! Why? Because I'm quite happy to enjoy the advances of the modern era, a smartphone, a flat screen TV, a dishwasher, the internet, a tumble dryer and my laptop. I could survive without those things but that's where i am spoiled, because I don't have to. I live in a world of scientific advancement where all these things are part and parcel of our daily lives.

It’s just that don't want to live in a modern style home, or wear modern style clothes. I want the nostalgic version of the 1950’s, the rose coloured glass version we all love, the one without racial oppression, sexual inequality, rationing or the fear of atomic war. I would love to be a housewife, working only from home and in the home. Having my children around me, taking care of them myself instead of shipping them off to a day-care nursery, having the luxury of cooking a home cooked meal and eating that meal with my husband and children.

That's just it though, isn't it? All of those things are luxury. Gone are the days when those were normal desires for a woman, or in fact considered the role of a woman. These days the role of a woman has a more ample definition, and that is good. A woman of the 21st Century is supposed to be able to have everything, a career and a family. Yet, making the decision to stay at home and taking care of your home and family is frowned upon. Some countries more than in others. It's seen as lazy, not wishing to make a contribution to your family's economy, or as a luxury only for women who don’t have to work to help their family, like those women on the Real housewives show.

The media is filled with images of women who have it all, a high flying career, a great figure, a loving relationship with her partner who has an equally high flying career, happy and well rounded, confident and loved children and an immaculate home with healthy, delicious home cooked meals. I know women who manage to pull of this fantastic lifestyle and by god I applaud them heartily, it’s true that sometimes those home cooked meals are frozen lasagne and that the women themselves look a little frazzled. I wish I felt able to live like that, I wish I relished in having a high flying career and a family to come home to.

But I am half that woman, I don't feel able or even willing to live like that. I mean I have to work for a wage, who doesn’t in this day and age, but I’ve never wanted a career, never strived to make lots of money, or felt overwhelmingly passionate about living the corporate life. I want an old fashioned life, I’ve always wanted that in an old fashioned style home.

So it seems I've come full circle, so what's my point in all this? Is it merely a well written (if I do say so myself) rant? Probably! I prefer to think of it as a magnifying glass on society, a comfort to others who feel the way I do.

We are not alone. We can choose to be housewives, if that’s what we want, so long as our partners agree to that. It doesn’t mean that we are not emancipated, or that we believe a woman’s place is in the home and only the home. Rather it is another choice, a choice we have the right to make as women in a more equal society, just like having a career and a family is a choice.

Power to those of us who make that choice!